An article on rookiemag, which I’ve become obssessed with, written by Tavi, whose writings I ‘m particularly fond of. 

She divides the article into three subtopics: 

1. Wearing what you want

“People are afraid of trying to be creative because they’re afraid that they won’t succeed, but who said your “success” in getting dressed has to be evaluated by other people? As long as you’re into what you’re wearing and it makes you more comfortable with yourself, it doesn’t matter if someone else thinks you’ve put together a perfectly composed outfit. Actually, the effect of your confidence will only add to how stylish your outfit seems. It’s like the best catch-22 ever.”

“Again, it’s about the whole people-deciding-your-image-for-you thing. Don’t let them. Make them feel stupid for trying.”

“It comes down to this: if you dress “weird,” kind old ladies will come up to you on the street and tell you that you made their day. And that will make your day. It’s the most delightful thing.”

2. Your physical self / Liking your body and face

“But it helps to surround yourself with images of women who aren’t like the ones you typically see in tabloids or on TV. Images are powerful, and it’s only when I find myself looking at certain fashion magazines or Tumblrs that I feel myself once again grow insecure about how I look.”

“It is so, so important that influential female people and characters who are not conventional, in their looks and/or personality, exist.”

3. Your internal self / brain / personality / sould / that stuff 

“This is why pop culture needs more strong female characters. Not like, I’m a superhero and I’m supersexy and STRONG and my boobs look really good in this catsuit but oh wait I’m totally two-dimensional. Like, multifaceted, with many layers. Like, you know, human. Can we get a list going in the comments of characters like this?”

“When it comes to becoming the person you want to be, you have to know who you want to be first. And it’s hard to know what we, as girls slash women, really want. I may want to look a certain way because I know it will get me respect and people will pay attention to what I have to say. But Idon’t really want to look that way, I “want” to look that way because it’s what they want, and I’ll benefit somehow, but I don’t know who comes out on top in the end.”

“Besides: everyone else is too busy worrying about themselves to worry about you, so you don’t need to be concerned with what they might think.”

“I don’t want to believe that I should be concerned with being beautiful, I want to believe that I can be comfortable with myself […]”

“I just wanna like what I like and do things I enjoy and have solid friends and be too busy experiencing this grand old thing we call life […] to worry whether I’m allowed to or not.”

Sorry for the eternally long entry, but this girl is just so smart.